Making love can vary from couple to couple. Some do it a lot, some keep it at a moderate level and some hardly bump ugliest like they ought to. Nevertheless, how much you have sex says a lot about you and your partner. Keep reading to find out what the frequency of your lovemaking says about your relationship.
The length of love. The longer you’re with someone, the more complicated your life may become. Some people start having more sex more often, while some couples see their sex life take a bit of a nose dive. It’s different with everyone.
Studying love. Florida State University decided to delve a bit into the world of love and lovemaking and how the frequency of lovemaking affects a couple. They wanted to know how couples varied.
If you’re happy and you know it… Several couples who were recently married were asked to take part in the study. According to positivemed.com, they were asked about how happy they were together and how close they were, but there wasn’t a genuine connection between the two.
Automatic response. The second part of the study had couples use word association to determine if they reacted negatively or positively. Before each word was shown, a picture of their spouse popped up on screen. This was done to elicit an automatic reaction.
Lovemaking and closeness. As it turns out, as result of the study, couples aren’t necessarily as honest when asked bluntly about their partner. But the second part of the study, with the “automatic behavioral response,” couples were much more direct with their feelings.
More and more. Following the test, it was determined that the couples who were closer together and tended to make love more often responded more positively in the automated section. The more you do it, the closer you are and the more positive you tend to be towards each other.
No sh*t, Sherlock. According to a study, it turns out that lovers are closer when they make love more often than not. One might say that this didn’t really need research to figure out, but, alas, that’s the world we live in. Everything needs to be official.
Is there such a thing as too much sex? Sex is fun. No study is necessary to determine that. But can couples overdo it when it comes to getting rough and wild in the sack. According to another study conducted by Amy Muise and other researchers at the University of Toronto-Mississauga, the answer is “yes.”
Take it easy. While having a lot of sex won’t hurt your relationship, keeping it to a minimum of once a week will actually do a body good. According to Today, Muise was quoted as saying, “Once a week makes sense in some ways because I think many people would still see this as having regular sex.”
Keep it steady. If your sex life doesn’t include the 1-week minimum standard, you might see a drop in happiness. Couples need sex to feel happy (for the most part), so any less than once a week may have some negative side effects.
The natural decline. Naturally, as you get older, having sex may not be as much of a priority as it used to be. Your body starts to tire out more quickly, your libido isn’t what it used to be. Thankfully, you’ve got enough years between the two of you that your love should be pretty solid.
Hitting the quota. If it’s not already clear enough, sex doesn’t make a relationship. As long as you’re viewing it as an emotional investment, and you’re putting more into than just physical intimacy, your relationship will be all the healthier for it.
Don’t be let down. If you feel as though your relationship isn’t what it used to be in terms of how much sex you’re having, don’t let it get to you. Couples go through dips. It’s only natural. You’ll have your highs and lows in just about every facet of your relationship.