Swinger and cheating, what is the difference?

Swingers have a much higher success rate as it relates to marriage than those who aren’t a part of the lifestyle. If you and your partner have open communications about ...

Swingers have a much higher success rate as it relates to marriage than those who aren’t a part of the lifestyle. If you and your partner have open communications about your wants and desires as it relates to your sexual relationship, then it seems your marriage has already survived the first true test which is communication.

For non-swinging relationships, 50% of the women cheat and 60% of men cheat at some time in their marriage. Recent studies have shown that in 80% of marriages, someone is having an affair.

The first study conducted by the University of California in 1998 reported 24% of men and 14% of women cheated outside their marriages. In nearly 10 years the numbers doubled, believe it or not, the people that have cheated blame the jump on the internet. According to a divorce magazine, 46% of men believe that online affairs are considered adultery.

About 75% of married people believe it is OK to visit an adult site. Out of the married couples, 57% of people used the internet Social sites to reconnect with an old flame or with a new flirt. Roughly 38% of married couples engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% have talked on the phone with someone. What is most interesting is 31% of people have had an online conversation that led to sex from a non-sex-related social site.

With swingers, couples do not engage in sexual activities or flirt to replace their significant other. Both parties share mutual feelings about the journey they share and frown heavily on cheating. If you are found to be cheating on your partner, other couples will ostracize you from their list of play partners.

With the rise in divorce, more couples are embracing life and the lifestyle in general. If a husband enjoys seeing his wife have sex with other people, and if a wife enjoys seeing her husband have sex with others, then can you really considered this as cheating?

Cheating is when you knowingly and willingly have sex with somebody else without your spouse’s knowledge or consent. While sexual affairs outside the relationship may sometimes be in the heat of the moment with no regard to the other partner, swingers maintain that sex among swingers is a more thought-out and practical affair.

According to ABC News reporter John Stossel, who conducted an investigation into the Swinglifestyle, cited Terry Gould’s research, which concluded that “couples swing in order to not cheat on their partners.” When Stossel asked swinging couples whether they worry their spouse will “find they like someone else better”, one male replied,

“People in the swinging community swing for a reason. They don’t swing to go out and find a new wife;” a woman asserted, “It makes women more confident – that they are the ones in charge.”

Stossel went on to interview 12 marriage counselors. According to Stossel, “not one of them said don’t do it”, though some said, “getting sexual thrills outside of marriage can threaten a marriage”. Swingers that Stossel interviewed claimed

“their marriages are stronger because they don’t have affairs and they don’t lie to each other. 12 of 12 marriage counselors do not have a problem with swinging. People should not cheat or have affairs, swingers put everything out in the open. The thrill of being a swinger is keeping the thrill alive, and loving your partner”.

In conclusion when someone asks if there is a difference between cheating and swingers, the answer is a definite “YES”. Keep in mind, when you cheat you are hurting someone, it can take months and even years to get over. Swingers do not encourage cheating and they do not get into swinging to hurt their partner but to treat them with nothing but the utmost respect for their relationship and the lifestyle.

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