We really want to remain anonymous. But I can reveal that we are Northern Europeans and are a young well-educated couple. He is a leader in the defense and has had many missions around the world. She is a very talented business developer and a graphic genius.
We have been in the lifestyle for about 10 years and we started because we rationalized ourselves until there is a big separation between love and sex. Through the last 10 years, we have developed our relationship to today we are a power couple who can talk about everything. When we started our relationship we were very antisocial and spent a lot of time together alone. After we started as a swinger, our social circle has exploded with good friends (with benefits). In addition to our relationship is fantastic, the swinger environment has a side effect, we have a lot of great sex, and it gives us a lot of energy and our creativity explodes both privately and professionally.
For those who don´t know, how would you explain what a swinger is?
A swinger is a socially open person who likes to experiment sexually. A swinger couple is generally smart and/or well-educated, as it requires a lot of analysis to be able to separate sex and love. A swinger is always open to new friends and/or acquaintances. A swinger is not judgmental of people’s differences and there is room for everyone in the swinger environment.
Could you introduce yourself and tell us a little about the secretswingerlust.com?
Secretswingerlust is a site that must help ensure quality in the swinger environment. We want to create a website that guides all our readers no matter where in the world they are. A website where our reader always trusts our reviews and that we are 100 percent independent of the clubs.
Secretswingerlust.com is constantly evolving and we really want to develop our concept into a website that has everything a swinger needs, whether you are curious, beginner, or experienced.
What is the story behind it?
We started secretswingerlust.com when we visited a major German city, and have found a swinger club on the internet that looked great. We were really looking forward to it but were really disappointed.
You can read much more about this: The Story.
After our experience, we decided to make a website that would help others not to have bad experiences in the swinger environment. Our big goal is also that all clubs must constantly develop the clubs so that the swinger environment becomes an attractive place to live out your sexual fantasies.
What sets secretswingerlust.com apart from other websites for swingers?
Our website is a bit different from other swinger sites as we always visit the clubs before we review them. Clubs cannot pay to be on our website as we are 100 percent independent.
How do you choose the swinger clubs you visit?
We visit an average of 20 clubs every time we find someone to go on our “swinger map”. An example: We visited New York City and visited quite a few clubs, but there are none on our “swinger map”. We will never recommend a club we have not had a really fun and naughty evening.
We have two ways to find clubs:
– we hear about the clubs through our own network and read various forums.
– we are tipped through our readers.
Can you explain more the meaning of back and white cards? How do you score the clubs? How can the swinger club get the black card?
Our black card is our access ticket to website. When we visit clubs, we end the evening by giving them a white or black card. If the club gets a black card we are so happy with the club and the night we have experienced that we want our reader to try the same. If the club does not live up to our standards, then we hand over a white card, which means the club does not come to our website.
We never mention clubs that we do not select for the website, as we do not want to “slaughter” any clubs just because we did not have a good night.
How do you score the clubs? How can the swinger club get the black card?
How do we rate? it’s our little secret but if a club has amazing guests and some nice and clean facilities there is a chance we will visit them. Right now we are under lockdown, so we cannot travel around the world, but as soon as the corona is gone, then we are ready again and we have big plans in Europe, Canada, and USA.
How current situations in the world (with Covid-19) affect your lifestyle?
Secretswingerlust.com is really hard hit by covid-19, as we cannot / do not want to travel around a world full of disease. Our swinger friends can also tell us that most clubs are closed due to Covid-19. We do not encourage people to travel but we hope there will be a vaccine soon. We hope all swingers come back to the clubs when the opportunity arises again.
Anything else you would like to say to our readers?
We would really like to encourage everyone to tip us about good clubs/resorts/parties in the swinger environment, so we can get more stars on our “swinger map” when we can travel again.