An author who writes about cheating and gender has explained that men commonly cheat for intimacy while women are more likely to cheat just for sex.
We’ve all heard the old adage that men cheat more than women – and that they do it just for sex. Or, maybe you’ve heard that women only cheat for romantic love?
Well, an infidelity expert has blown the stereotypes out of the water and believes the opposite is true.
Alicia Walker, author of The Secret Life Of The Cheating Wife, told the Sun that she had been researching gender and cheating for her new book Chasing Masculinity.
And, she claims that while men are seen as sex-maniacs and women as romantics… it’s simply not always true.
“The men in this study enjoyed the sex in their affairs, but valued emotional connection and intimacy more highly. The vast majority of women purely sought sexual satisfaction.”
The cheating expert argues that while men are seen to be driven by their, well, you know, this actually makes excuses for their infidelities by making it seem like it’s in their programming.
However, most of the men Alicia spoke to actually were chasing “intimacy and attention” when they weren’t getting it at home.
Alicia told Fabulous that men just want women to compliment and praise them, plus listen to their mundane stories.
The author clams they want “The Girlfriend Experience” with long days in bed, lots of kissing and sensuous contact – like in the honeymoon period of a relationship.
However, Alicia added that women generally wanted no-commitment sex and dismissed men they found “needy or dependant.”
This take on cheating, however, goes against what a survey of 2000 adults by Superdrug Online Doctor found in 2017. It claimed that the most likely reason for men to cheat, as self-reported, was because the person they cheated with was attractive
Although, some did say that they were unfaithful because the person they cheated with was “there for them”. Meanwhile , women reported that they were most likely to cheat because their partner wasn’t giving them the attention they needed at home.
What do you think?
You can buy Alicia’s book, Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation And Infidelity on palgrave.com.