Hi! My name is Krissy. I’m your friendly, escort next door type. I love having fun, laughing, and being funny. I have a gorgeous smile and addictive giggle which is a good thing because I laugh and smile a lot. Some of my interests include yoga, eating healthy, music, and movies. I can’t wait until I can go to a live concert again, or get dressed up for a night at the theater. I’ve been in the industry for about 2 years.
How and why did you decide to get into it?
I realized I wanted a much more adventurous sex life than what I was finding on dating apps and in bars. I was also very unhappy with the regular 9 to 5 job I had at the time. I was looking for a way to make more money but also wanted to have fun. I started by posting some verified videos on Pornhub and I really enjoyed knowing people were watching my videos. That gave me the confidence to try camming and escorting. I just googled how to cam and how to be an escort. There’s a wealth of knowledge out there. I highly recommend Lydia Dupra’s YouTube channel as a great starting point.
What is the best part of your work?
The people I get to meet and the places I get to go. I love the sense of adventure.
What do you love the most about it?
Every date is a new adventure. I love the element of the unknown. Whether with a new client or a regular, it’s always exciting for me. Traveling to a new hotel or residence, or even just meeting someone new at my incall. I love getting to learn about a person’s story. I also love knowing that our time together could be the only time we ever spend together. It adds an element of intensity to each encounter that I really enjoy. Even with a client, I see regularly, our time together is still special. My time spent with clients is always special and held in a different category from ordinary time. Ordinary time is for boring tasks like grocery shopping and laundry. My time with clients is fantasy time where anything is possible and we create magic together.
Do you see this as a long-term career?
I absolutely see this as a long-term career. I will always want to be an escort and continue in the sex work industry in some capacity. I’m also working on becoming a yoga instructor, massage therapist, and nutritionist. If I still had my 9 to 5 job I’d never have the time or finances to explore all the different things I want to learn and experience. Escorting gives me that freedom. Unless I choose to retire, there is no reason why I can’t continue escorting into my 50s and 60s. There are plenty of people who find mature women attractive and if I still want to escort at that age, I see no reason why I shouldn’t. Same for yoga and massage or anything else I want to pursue.
What would you tell others about becoming an escort?
If it’s something you want to try, then try it. I waited a long time before trying it out because I was worried about what people would say or what they would think of me. I regret that I wasted all that time being afraid. Becoming an escort is the most empowering thing I have ever done for myself and I’m sorry I didn’t start sooner. I recommend doing research and talking to people in the industry first before just jumping in cold, but, if you feel ready, then dive right in!
What is the funniest moment you’ve had in the business?
It’s difficult to pick just one moment. There have been so many wonderful, fun and funny moments.
Have you ever had a client that became a friend?
Yes, actually it happens more often than you’d think. Lots of escorts are friends with their clients.
What are some of the most important things in being a successful escort?
Always trust your instincts. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Also, always screen your clients. Their reaction to being asked for screening info is just as important as the screening info itself. If a client is reluctant to screen or tries to get out of it, then cancel the date. Don’t meet anyone who refuses to screen. It’s understandable to ask questions if they’ve never been through the process, but it’s easy to tell if they are genuinely asking to figure out the process or if they just want to dodge the request. Another important thing is to find a community. Try Twitter and/or googling your city name + escort to find out which escorts have websites and if there are any outreach programs in your area. In my city, I’m very lucky to have found a wonderful community of escorts. It’s been a huge resource and I’m thankful to have found it.
I’m sure like most people, there are days you say ‘I really do not want to do this’ or days that really aren’t the best. Is there something that you do, to provide the best experience for your client, even on these days?
One of the many joys of being an independent escort is, I don’t even have to do anything I don’t want to do. So, on those days when I really don’t want to work, I just don’t work. When I have bad days I get to stay in bed. I don’t even have to call in sick! I don’t even have to ask permission for anything like that ever again! But, if for some reason I find that I have to force myself, then telling myself that it’s just an hour or two or however long the date is, and then it’s over usually does the trick. Charging the right rate always helps too. The trick is to find an amount that will motivate me but is also still within the client’s budget. I want to charge enough to keep myself happy but not too much that I’m too expensive for the clientele. Visiting websites of other independent providers in the same area will you give you an idea of what the standard rate is for that city.
Have you ever dealt with a ‘bad’ client? What happened?
Sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there and it can be difficult to get through the date but I’ve never had a traumatic or violent experience. It’s easy to get through it when I remind myself it’s only a few hours. I can pretty much do anything for an hour. I can usually find something to talk about or some way to entertain the client during our time together.
Do your family and friends know that you are an escort? Do they support you? What was their first reaction when they found out / you told them?
My family does not know, but that is simply because I’m not very close with my family, to begin with. If they did find out, I would not deny it or try to hide it. I think they probably would be supportive, it’s just not something I feel I need to share with them. I know lots of providers whose families are very supportive of their involvement in sex work so if anyone wants to tell their family, they should. My friends know I’m an escort because most of my friends are part of the sex work industry in some capacity. I find it difficult sometimes to have friends or relate to people who are not part of the sex work industry, it’s not impossible though, just a bit difficult at times.
Has to be an escort given you more opportunities than you might have had otherwise? Can you explain it?
Escorting has given me so many opportunities I wouldn’t have had otherwise. The people I get to meet, the social circles I get to travel in, are the direct result of my choice to start escorting. I had no idea life could be this good and it keeps getting better and better. One big change is the apartment I currently rent. I was able to move into a nicer apartment in a nicer part of town because of the money I saved from escorting.
The biggest topic on everyone’s mind nowadays is the coronavirus and social distancing. What have you been doing during this time to stay upbeat?
I take more time for self-care. I indulge in things that give me pleasure. If I want to spend an extra 30 mins meditating or stretching I take the time and don’t worry about anything else. If I want to eat the extra piece of cake, I eat it. I believe the universe is always looking out for me and things will always work out.
How you cope with it? Do you provide something special for your dates?
While I still offer in-person dates, I have also started offering virtual dates as an alternative. I started an only fans page and a frisk. chat page. I also like to broadcast on chaturbate. There are a few different ways I can connect with my clients. My website, krissyphoenix.com, is the best place to find all my links and stay up to date with my latest adventures.
Have you done something you’ve been wanting to do but never had the time?
Due to covid, I haven’t had the chance yet to do anything very outrageous. For now, I’m just enjoying the freedom of not having to work a 9 to 5 job.
What is the plan for the future? What next?
I plan to continue on this path, discovering and exploring more about my career in sex work. Do more camming, create more content, meet even more new and interesting people. If I am finding success now, I can’t wait until coronavirus is over.
Anything you would like to add, thoughts you would like to share with readers?
Don’t worry about what anyone thinks. Change is scary because we’re used to what we already have and we don’t know what the change will bring. I promise to change is always better. No matter the outcome, when you change, you learn about yourself and that’s how you grow as a person and discover new things about yourself. Also, be kind to yourself and others. This world will always need and appreciate more love rather than hate.
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