I was born and raised in the American Midwest, in a stereotypical middle class family. I was always very curious, growing up, and wanted to learn everything I could about anything and everything that captured my attention. I am still that way; constantly learning new and various things. Life is meant to be an adventure.
How long have you been in the industry?
I “discovered” BDSM when I was in my early 30s and quickly discovered the joys of becoming a Professional Dominatrix. I then took an extended hiatus, to take care of family obligations, before returning to the professional side of BDSM. In total, as a Lifestyle participant and as a Professional, I would say that I have been in the industry for a little over 20 years. And I have been involved with the phone sex industry for almost 4 years.
How and why did you decide to get into it?
I got into the phone sex industry through sheer happenstance. A friend of a friend told me that the company where she worked was looking to hire some new people. After a long discussion with my husband, weighing the pros and cons, I applied for the job and was hired. I am happy to say that I have been with this same company (www.peplove.com) for almost 4 years and I truly love the work and my co-workers.
What is the best part of your work?
There are so many parts of this work that are fantastic, I find it difficult to pinpoint just one. Probably in the number one spot, on the list, would be the autonomy. Because I am able to work from home, I get to set my own hours, dress code, etc. Plus, I get to talk to people from all over the planet and learn from them about their unique views.
What do you love the most about it?
I love building relationships with clients, learning about them and sometimes helping them work through difficult situations. Everyone is fascinating in their own way, and I love exploring the world of sex from their point of view.
What has been one of the best or funniest moments in your work?
That would have to be the feeling of ‘coming home’ that I get whenever I attend the bi-annual business gathering for the Ladies at PEPLove. That sense of camaraderie and sisterhood is undeniable and priceless.
What are some of the most important things in being successful?
Tenacity and focus. It’s too easy to get distracted or dismayed when things aren’t quite going the way you want them to go. It’s at times like that when a person needs to remind them self why they are in this industry and remember how far they have already come along. This is especially true for those of us who “are of a certain age.” Yes, there is always going to be someone younger, skinnier, heavier, prettier or whatever -er word you want to insert. But, and this is the important bit to remember, there is only one YOU and no one else can bring your unique experience, look, sexiness and talent to the table. Staying focused and tenacious will see you through the ups and downs of most endeavors, especially sex work.
The biggest topic on everyone’s mind nowadays is the corona virus and social distancing. What have you been doing during this time to stay upbeat?
There is no doubt that the corona virus has had a huge impact on everyone, mentally as well as physically. In an effort to stay upbeat, and feel productive at the same time, I threw myself into redecorating a spare bedroom and turning it into an office/photography studio. I also spent a great deal of the summer working in my garden.
Have you done something you’ve been wanting to do but never had the time?
Before the whole country went into lock down, I was able to travel to Hawaii for the first time. Beautiful scenery, friendly people and amazing food. I hope to go back again some time in the future.
What is the plan for the future? What next?
My plans for the future include building my brand slowly, so that it is sustainable. That might include some modeling or possibly some videos. I would also like to hike the Appalachian Trail at some point.
Anything you would like to add, thoughts you would like to share with readers?
Don’t be afraid to explore those ideas and fantasies that make you shiver with excitement. Life is too short to have regrets.
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